HuffPo: Polygamy the key to a happy monogamous marriage

What's the secret of a successful monogamous marriage?  If you read HuffPo, the answer may surprise you: polygamy!  Who would have known?

I vividly remember the first time I felt it. My husband and I were in the backyard, lazing in the sun, sipping drinks as he described the previous evening. As he talked, his face looked brighter, his eyes clearer.

"Baby," I told him genuinely, "I am so happy for you!"

What brought on these feelings of joy in both of us? To be honest, he'd just had sex -- with another woman. And, yep, I was stoked for him.

There's actually a word for the joyful feeling that a polyamorous person has when his or her lover or spouse walks through the door after spending the afternoon making love to his or her new girlfriend or boyfriend: compersion. Feeling all warm and gooey because your spouse had a great time banging someone else is not something we're socialized to feel. We can be thrilled for our partner if they get a raise or promotion or receive some kind of unexpected windfall, but why can't we be happy for our partners who find joy in bed with someone else?

In that moment in the backyard when my husband was describing a spontaneous make out session, I felt slightly freakish that I was exuberantly happy for him. But it was at a point in our marriage when romance in the bedroom was at an all-time low. Between financial stressors, raising kids and working like crazy, there wasn't a lot of fun to be had. Quite frankly, I was happy to see that my husband was still sexual.

Having separate sexual and love experiences doesn't mean your relationship is a failure; to the contrary, it can actually strengthen your connection.

So according to this article, if your marriage is running out of steam, you can strengthen it by giving your wife or husband permission to sleep around.  Then, when your spouse comes home covered in lipstick, he can regale you with tales of his new, younger, and more vibrant girlfriend!  You can feel happy for him, feel compersion as he trades you in for a newer model.

Compersion is an interesting made up word, by the way.  It looks like a cross between "compassion" and "dispersion."  Maybe you're supposed to feel compassion that you're sending your husband away to other ladies.  It's the gift of sharing, like a handful of M&M's.  Except instead of sharing M&M's, you're sharing your husband or wife.

I wonder.  Do you think that's how Bill and Hillary Clinton's relationship worked – that Hillary gave him permission to sleep around?  Do you think Hillary felt a lot of compersion when Bill told her about his experiences in the Oval Office with Monica Lewinsky?

I have always said that gay marriage is not the end, but just the beginning.  Next came transgenderism, and now polygamy.  Now that the door is open, marriage can and will mean virtually anything.

Pedro Gonzales is the editor of Newsmachete.com, the conservative news site.

What's the secret of a successful monogamous marriage?  If you read HuffPo, the answer may surprise you: polygamy!  Who would have known?

I vividly remember the first time I felt it. My husband and I were in the backyard, lazing in the sun, sipping drinks as he described the previous evening. As he talked, his face looked brighter, his eyes clearer.

"Baby," I told him genuinely, "I am so happy for you!"

What brought on these feelings of joy in both of us? To be honest, he'd just had sex -- with another woman. And, yep, I was stoked for him.

There's actually a word for the joyful feeling that a polyamorous person has when his or her lover or spouse walks through the door after spending the afternoon making love to his or her new girlfriend or boyfriend: compersion. Feeling all warm and gooey because your spouse had a great time banging someone else is not something we're socialized to feel. We can be thrilled for our partner if they get a raise or promotion or receive some kind of unexpected windfall, but why can't we be happy for our partners who find joy in bed with someone else?

In that moment in the backyard when my husband was describing a spontaneous make out session, I felt slightly freakish that I was exuberantly happy for him. But it was at a point in our marriage when romance in the bedroom was at an all-time low. Between financial stressors, raising kids and working like crazy, there wasn't a lot of fun to be had. Quite frankly, I was happy to see that my husband was still sexual.

Having separate sexual and love experiences doesn't mean your relationship is a failure; to the contrary, it can actually strengthen your connection.

So according to this article, if your marriage is running out of steam, you can strengthen it by giving your wife or husband permission to sleep around.  Then, when your spouse comes home covered in lipstick, he can regale you with tales of his new, younger, and more vibrant girlfriend!  You can feel happy for him, feel compersion as he trades you in for a newer model.

Compersion is an interesting made up word, by the way.  It looks like a cross between "compassion" and "dispersion."  Maybe you're supposed to feel compassion that you're sending your husband away to other ladies.  It's the gift of sharing, like a handful of M&M's.  Except instead of sharing M&M's, you're sharing your husband or wife.

I wonder.  Do you think that's how Bill and Hillary Clinton's relationship worked – that Hillary gave him permission to sleep around?  Do you think Hillary felt a lot of compersion when Bill told her about his experiences in the Oval Office with Monica Lewinsky?

I have always said that gay marriage is not the end, but just the beginning.  Next came transgenderism, and now polygamy.  Now that the door is open, marriage can and will mean virtually anything.

Pedro Gonzales is the editor of Newsmachete.com, the conservative news site.