Dirty Little Secret: More Women Want to Stay Home to Raise Kids
Many women would like to stay home to raise their kids. So writes "Zerlina" the other day at the feminist blog Feministing. One assumes that Zerlina is using a pen name for a reason. Admitting that many working mothers would prefer being at home with their kids rather than grinding it out in offices flies in the face feminist gospel. Zerlina risks excommunication.
Here's what Zerlina wrote:
Sure Ann [Romney] made a choice but it was a choice she was free to make because of her economic status. Many American women would love to stay home and raise their kids and not have to work but they don't have that luxury.
For decades now, feminists have argued that stay-at-home moms were the equivalent of plantation slaves. Or they were sellouts - Betty Crockers who drank The Stepford Wives' Kool Aid. A "real" woman wanted a professional career, just like a man.
Kids - if women didn't abort them - could be shuffled off to government schools in the morning and after school programs to fill the afternoon gap. Nights, short as they were after long days at the office, would be for "quality time." For boomers, particularly, self-fulfillment is life's point, and feminist boomers have preached and cajoled that women weren't going to find fulfillment in the home raising children. No, no. Money, career advancement, recognition, and amassing toys would be the ticket to the satisfied life.
But as Zerlina concedes the dirty little secret is that plenty of working moms would rather not work; they'd prefer to do what Ann Romney has done: raise their kids as their primary role in life. Yikes! This is so un-feminist, so against the modern orthodoxy that liberated women would never consider giving up corner offices and nice expense accounts for diapers and play dates.
Of course, the mainstream media doesn't report much on changes in women's attitudes and sensibilities toward staying at home with their kids. Since the mainstream media is lockstep with feminism and its ally, leftism, reporting anything that contradicts efforts to build a Brave New Left-tilting World of liberated women and "village" raised kids ain't going to fly.
But a couple of years ago, there was an interesting article in London's The Mail about a resurgence in British women's desire to be at home with their kids.
Under the headline: "What women want in 2010: A husband who'll be the main breadwinner."
The article cites research that shows a growing awareness of the importance of motherhood and mothers as the centers of home life for their children. From the article:
Having tried full-time working themselves they [women] have found the home much more interesting and want to be enabled to have that - especially if the only job they have access to is a dull job.'
He [sociologist Geoff Dench] said there had been a gradual move back towards 'more positive evaluations of women's traditional "work" in the family and informal community'
Is Dench suggesting that a woman's traditional role as a stay-at-home mom is more than a scheme by men to subjugate women? Or does Mr. Dench's study suggest that an alarming number of women want to be subjugated? Feminists need to get the re-education camps up and running for their sisters who are straying for the true path. Perhaps Dench just oversampled Britain's Muslim women, whose faith and culture really do repress them.
Indeed, Ann Romney's husband's income allowed her to stay-at-home with her kids. But other women do so even though their husbands' incomes are modest; they're making real sacrifices to raise their children despite the financial hardships.
For those mothers who work from sheer necessity and can't be at home with their kids, they deserve understanding and admiration. Self-sacrifice, however it comes, is noble and ennobling of the lives touched by those making the sacrifices. Which runs contrary to the cheap, tawdry self-fulfillment claptrap peddled by boomers and feminists for too long now.
See also: Hilary Rosen's Class Warfare Tactic