Whatever Happened to Private Sex?
"I heart female orgasm" is a public event taking place at the University of Minnesota to teach young women and girls enrolled in the school how to achieve and improve their orgasms. Yes, you heard me right. "Sex Week" at Yale and now this. There is only one way to combat this insanity. Minnesota parents need to threaten to withhold their tuition payments until this ceases.
Do college students really need this class? Women have been having orgasms since time immemorial and learned it all on their own without the aid of university classes. If someone has problems in this arena, this very personal matter should be discussed in private with a doctor or therapist. Sex should be a private concern but we are trivializing it with programs like this at the same time we are making it too pressing of an issue in our already sex-obsessed culture.
Today's pop culture and university system are working hard turning sex into an open and public endeavor. The messaging to young people is that it is nothing special, it does not require intimacy, it's for sport and entertainment, it's something you just have to do like going to the bathroom or blowing your nose, and whoever you can do it with when you need to do it, is just fine.
The overriding message is this is an animal urge and follow your instincts at all times. The need for control and restraint is passé.
Well, we aren't just animals. We do possess free will and discipline and that is, after all, what distinguishes us from our animal pals. Is there a course on this at college?
Parents shouldn't tolerate this; they shouldn't tolerate their daughters and sons sharing bathrooms in the dorms or sharing rooms. Maybe they do need some supervision at the ripe old age of 18-21. Rape rates while attending college for both our sons and daughters are higher than ever before, STD and pregnancy/abortion are more prevalent than in previous generations and the devastating emotional and psychological effects of casual and frequent sex are doing more harm than good to our young adults, with depression and feelings of alienation being ubiquitous during the college years.
It's infuriating: we have to pay for their education -- which means paying for nonsensical and deleterious programs like this -- but we aren't allowed to see their grades or know about their need to see a counselor. And, we are the last to find out about their drug abuse, pregnancies, rapes, and STDs. Parents hold the purse strings and should use that power. And students who are opposed to this garbage, need to be empowered to form groups that can make demands from the universities they attend.
When parents sent their children to college in the 40s, 50s, and 60s, they didn't need to worry about things like this. The dorms were separate, there were dorm mothers who supervised visits from members of the opposite sex and there were curfews. (Yes, I know some people had sex, some got pregnant, some got STDs and some became alcoholics. But the numbers were far less than today and there were consequences for such behavior. Most of all, your peers didn't tolerate it.)
Obama's crowd has done a good job of making our kids feel like the 50s are something to be laughed at and scorned, but there are some good things we could take from the 50s -- family, fidelity, faith -- that might not be so laughable and might provide the boundaries so many of our young people in college are craving. The peer pressure to partake in all the crazy activities is severe but when you talk to college students, too many of them are looking for something else. They might not fully comprehend the long-term emotional side effects of their behavior, but they know there is something better out there -- not the chaos, confusion and collateral damage that comes from rampant, unrestrained, meaningless sex; emotion-numbing and mind-altering partying; and then classes, professors, and a college culture reinforcing the same. If we continue at this rate, it won't be long before the need for bathrooms or bedrooms is obliterated. Click Here to learn more about the Program